Friends

Wow. Let me first start off by saying that I have been back to school now for over a week and I feel so incredibly lazy. I don’t want to do anything but hang out with my friends, eat, and sleep. How horrible is that? I would be concerned, but after talking to several people I have found that I am not alone in my laziness. Here is the beautiful thing too: in just two more days (crammed full of homework, mind you) I will be flying back down to Gasparilla to spend Easter with my family. Sounds good to me.

I feel like I have so many things I could share right now, but the one thing that has just had me thinking for the past few days is the way people (well…in this case, me) treat other people. Why do humans hurt the people that are closest to them? Why is it so much easier to get mad or to ignore or to not care about that one person who has always been there for you and yet put so much time and effort into someone who doesn’t truly care about you? It is so sad. I think we always just assume that that one person who would do anything for us is always going to be there, no matter what you do or don’t say to them or whether or not you say the right thing at the right time. It is probably true that they will, for the most part, always be there for you, because they are the ones that deeply care for you, for you. That is why we just blow them off so much. That is so not fair or right. I am only talking to myself here and I have been so convicted lately about some of my past actions to someone who has always been such a great friend and wonderful person in my life. I feel like the really nice people in the world seem to get the shaft a lot. It’s really funny to me that sometimes we can sit around and complain about why can’t a guy do this for you or why your friend can’t just say the right thing and we go on and on about how there aren’t any good people or good catches out there. Then, when it comes along, and that guy or that friend, or anyone treat you the way you would want to be treated we label them as creepers or needy or something along those lines, when in reality, isn’t that what we were just asking for anyway? I mean, seriously, what is up with that?

I guess what I am ultimately trying to say is to make sure you realize a good friend when you have them. Don’t take them for granted or just fit them into your schedule when it is most convenient for you. This past week, like I said, brought that home for me. All of a sudden I was reminded of this person who has been such a steady person and constant in my life now for 3 years and I became sad that him and I have not talked for a couple of months and I missed him.

Don’t let broken relationships go unfixed. Nothing hurts worse than losing touch with a friend, especially one that is that person, who was, your person, you know? And besides, good people, I mean, those really good people who can talk to you about anything, comfort you when you cry, laugh with you and at you, and who you know would drop anything to help you out are hard to find.

And to end, here is a really great quote that I sometimes need to keep reminding myself of:

“If we deny love that is given to us, if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss, then our lives will be empty, our loss greater.”